Help my little boy is going to go gay?

He is 4 and we just got him potty trained and he sits on the toilet when he pees! I have to constantly stand him up straight and show him how a boy is supposed to pee. He wouldn't stop so I had to spank him a couple of times but I still catch him doing it. He calls me mommy and my husband daddy, I want him to call me maam and him sir. He always pouts over silly things, and he skips and prances around like a homosexual. He never finishes everything on his plate so I make him eat broccoli which he hates and uses brightly colored crayons like pink so I don't let him color anymore. I have caught him playing with his sisters dolls once so I locked him in the basement for an hour and he cried the whole time so I made him stay in there for another hour. How can I get my sissy boy to become a man!?